Sometimes when I’m hanging out with Stevie, I get flashes of my dad, and it totally freaks me out.
Stevie’s an engineer and so is my dad, and they have a lot of the same mannerisms. One super weird thing they both do is say chocolate the same. Even though my dad is from South Carolina and Stevie is from New Jersey, they both put a weird, nasal-y accent on the first “o”, so it sounds like "chaaac-latt." Also fun fact: I’m a Capricorn, and so is Stevie’s mom, and Stevie is a Gemini and so is my mom. Freaky!
My point in sharing this is it’s normal to attract partners who are like your parents. Your parents are the first adults you know and closely interact with. Their mannerisms, characteristics and traits become what’s normal to you.
When there’s familiarity, there’s a comfort, and when there’s comfort, for better or worse, it’s easier to feel love.
Some of the characteristics you might attract in partners may be totally neutral (like how my dad and Stevie are engineers and say chocolate weird), and some might be good if they’re healthy dynamics and/or good qualities.
The issue is when you’re attracted to people like your parents, but they aren’t healthy behaviors or dynamics, which brings me to today’s episode on the Love Life Connection Podcast.
Cassie is concerned because she attracts narcissistic men who have similar traits and relationship dynamics to that of her father. For obvious reasons, she wants to break this pattern, but isn’t sure how.
You’ll love this episode if… -You notice you’re attracting partners or relationships like your parents
-You’ve never been in a relationship (or seen one) and you’re afraid it holds you back
-You have awareness of what you’re doing, but aren’t sure how to actually change!
I think you’re going to learn a lot in this episode, link in my bio! (Search for the Love Life Connection on iTunes, Stitcher or Spotify!)